If you start your day looking your own flaws in the face, you might work up a pretty good appetite of gratitude before breakfast. If you know you're no bargain in the morning, by evening you could be wittier with （） for someone who actually loves you anyway. From my own, not （） vast experience and my uncle's advice, it seems that this is the glue of any long-term （） Being Loved Anyway.There are at least two （） to the sticky stuff: First, you have to know your own worst and second, you have to find someone who also knows it, but doesn't think it's all that （）. Being Loved Anyway, you see, is not being regarded as （）but being accepted as imperfect. I don't suppose that sounds very romantic. Other people may want sonnets flowers and adoration. But frankly, adoration would make me nervous. I'd keep waiting to be discovered.I have a divorced friend who got （） with a man who was in （） of her. It was unusually flattering —for about three months. The problem was, she couldn't yell at her children in front of him. The problem was, she had to keep washing her hair. She simply couldn't live up to it.We are told people stay in love because of chemistry or because they remain （）with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck. But part of it has got to be forgiveness and （）, the understanding that you love and you are loved anyway.